Quick Update

Hi everyone! I know I haven’t posted in forever, but there’s a reason for that. I’ve been on vacation the past week and before that I hit a slump of depression. I’ll be back in full action Monday with a new Lady Rule and some reviews! Thanks for those who’ve stuck around! Be on the lookout for more posts next week. 

Love you all! 

Xxx The Modern Lady. 

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sEX buddies?

We’re all well aware what Throwback Thursday is…. but what happens when you want to Throwback Thursday with your Throwback Thursday….. Do you catch my drift? If not, we’re talking about sex with our past sex buddies. Come on Ladies! We all know it’s something we’ve thought about doing, if we haven’t already done it.

First, before you decide if you’re going to be Throwing it back or not, you have to think of yourself. Are YOU ready for a nothing-but-sexual relationship? Are YOU okay with what you’re going to be doing? Are YOU in control of the situation? A lot of women think they can get away with sex with an ex because they’re ‘so over it’. But truth be told, a lot of women are not really over it.

Let me just get one thing clear….HUMANS LIKE SEX. Just because your ex responded to your booty call DOES NOT mean you two are getting back together. You like sex, your ex likes sex, and you guys already know how to have sex with each other… That’s the main reason we have sex with our exes. I mean, I know it’s the reason I do. It’s so much easier to just call a past flame and try to get the dishes washed than having to meet someone new and showing them how you like your dishes washed.

Let’s get back to the YOU AREN’T GETTING BACK TOGETHER with your ex thing. Women view sex differently than men. Granted, there are few women out there who can completely disassociate any emotional feelings toward sex but most women can’t. To men, sex is sex. It’s in their nature to want to mate. Women seem to connect emotions to sex, leading to complicating a lot of things. Especially in just a sex buddy relationship.

A sex buddy relationship is really quite simple when you think about it. Two people agree to a sexual friendship. Personally, I’ve only had like two sex buddies, but for both of them we were friends who go out, have a good time, have a few drinks, and then end the night with sex. It’s nice when you two are on the same page of the friendship. Things get sticky when you aren’t on the same page. There are a few things you should probably discuss with your partner if you tend to be more emotional. For instance, are you two strictly sleeping with only each other? What’s your method of protection going to be? If you aren’t sleeping with only each other, definitely use condoms. The only thing I ever ask of any of my sex buddies is honesty. Be up front with me about anything and everything, and I will be with you. In fact, I’ve been so honest that I’ve upset some people. But I’m okay with that.

I’d also like to get one thing clear, it’s the 21st century. Sex buddies are a thing. Casual dating, casual sex, whatever you want to call it. Don’t feel guilty for being a sexual being. Be safe, always. Get tested regularly, use protection, and all that fun stuff. If you forget, there’s always Plan B…Literally! Haha!

xxx The Modern Lady.

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The Modern Lady’s Favorite Brushes!

I’m obsessed with makeup brushes. Not only do they really pay off when using them to apply makeup, but they just look so fun having in your collection. You might think I’m weird, but I’m a cosmetic collector. Now, in the beginning of my journey I wasn’t aware of how important brushes were. I thought all brushes were the same. I was so wrong. It’s taken me some time but I’ve found my favorite brushes. Amazing quality and even better prices. Ladies and Gentlemen I present to you Morphe Brushes.

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You may recognize this photo from earlier in my blog posts, unfortunately something happened to the photos I took so for the time being, I’m using this. Haha!

Now, when I say these brushes are amazing quality I mean it. I’ve had one of the brush sets for a little over 2 years now. With some minor shedding, and basic upkeep I’ve kept them working flawlessly. Don’t get me wrong though, I did have to superglue two or three back together, but out of a set of 11 that’s not so bad. Especially when the prices are so low. The first set I bought was the 11 Piece Pro Sable Set. It was $34.99 and has lasted over two years now. I love it. I also purchased a few single brushes, those prices range from $1.75 to about $20.00 a piece.

The thing I love about Morphe Brushes, is not only the quality and wholesale pricing, but the shipping is super fast. I’ve ordered something on a Sunday and received it by the following Friday, sometimes sooner! Unless obviously, they’re super backed up. (ex. the Jaclyn Hill Favorites Palette). They also have a location in California, so if you’re in the area you should definitely check it out and tell me how it is! I’m dying to go!

What are you favorite brushes? Do you own any Morphe Brushes in your collection?

xxx The Modern Lady.

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A Lady…

In the crazy chaotic world we live in, it’s easy to get so wrapped up in things that we completely forget about one thing that actually matters… ourselves! My life has been extra hectic lately. I had just finally gotten on a good routine for myself, and BAM! Life happens and messes it up. Of course, life’s going to be messed up for the next couple weeks but that’s the way it is.

One thing that I find to be very important is finding time for myself. Each and every day, even if it’s just 30 minutes doing yoga. If we don’t do this we can end up getting snappy and feel like we have a grey cloud over us. I know I hate feeling that way, which is why I try to remember myself. I try to give myself some time in the morning to relax and ‘wake up’ but then I start doing some yoga to really get my muscles energized. It’s a great way to relax yourself and give yourself some ‘me time.’

I know in my life and work life, having ‘me time’ is very rare. I’m always running on someone else’s schedule, and I have things to do. As long as I find some time for myself daily, I’m okay. If not, I tend to feel overwhelmed and I get cranky.

So next time you’re feeling like a grouch, try to remember the last time you took time for yourself? Maybe it’s something you should start doing. Or if you already have your ‘me time’ what do you do?

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The Modern Lady’s New Rule: A lady always makes time for herself.

xxx The Modern Lady.

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Teeth Whitening!

I love makeup, that’s a given. What I don’t love? Stained teeth. I especially hate stained teeth when I’m trying out a new lipstick. Being honest here, I stain my teeth. I drink coffee, I smoke, and I drink red wine. This stuff doesn’t help my teeth at all and honestly I think it’s ugly. I hate the yellowness.

It’s become almost an everyday thing for me to use Crest White Strips. I apply them before I start doing my makeup, after I brush my teeth. Currently, I’m using the Gentle System but it’s too gentle I think. It has been whitening my teeth, but my teeth aren’t sensitive so I think I can use a harsher strip. Another thing I noticed with the Gentle routine is that the strips seem to slip everywhere! So I’m going to be trying the Advanced Seal next.

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Besides using white strips I’ve been wanting to try different systems. I’ve been looking at the GLO Brilliant Personal Teeth Whitening Device. It seems worth the money, but I’m going to have to do more research on it as well as other systems.

So my question to you is; do you whiten your teeth? If so, what do you use?

xxx The Modern Lady.

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Lady’s Quick Tip: Apply Lip Liner Like a Pro!

Lining your lips can be one of the most frustrating things ever. I know plenty of us struggle with getting the cupids bow of our lip even and perfect. Luckily I’m here with another quick tip to help you with this.

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All you have to do is simply take your lip liner and draw a ‘X’ starting at the high point of the cupids bow. I like to start by relaxing my lips, then doing a close-mouthed smile to make sure it’s perfect. After you draw the ‘X’ slowly trace the outline of your lips, little by little, alternating sides starting from the top of the ‘X’ out. For the bottom lip, start in the center and work your way out. Open your mouth wide and connect the two lines at the corners in the end and you’re done!

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Your pout will be more defined and better lined! Give this a shot and tell me you aren’t impressed!

xxx The Modern Lady.

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10 Tips To Apply Your Makeup Better

1. Moisturizer is key, especially if you opt not to use primers.
Personally, I moisturize and use primers. Some people choose not to use primers and that’s totally okay. Primers do keep your makeup on longer and give you a nice even application though. If you decide not to use a primer, at least use a moisturizer with SPF. You want to keep your skin hydrated and safe from the sun and the environment in general. Although I highly recommend using primers. Think of your face as a canvas. You always prime a canvas before painting it because it gets the canvas ready for the paint.

2. Beauty Blenders are a gift from heaven.
I used to apply my foundation with my fingertips, and occasionally a brush. Until I discovered a gift from the heavens above. The Beauty Blender. Using a Beauty Blender gives you such a beautiful, almost airbrushed finish. Plus, blending is so easy when you’re using it. It does soak up product, but I’ll give you a tutorial on how I use my Beauty Blender in the future!

3. Use a light hand, especially when it comes to eyes.
I can not stress this enough. The skin around our eyes is sensitive enough to begin with, it’s also prone to wrinkle. The rougher you are on your eyes, the greater your chance is for wrinkles. You also want to use a light hand because it’s easier to move product around that way.

4. Less is more you can always build anything.
This goes along the lines of using a light hand. If you start with too much product on your brush, chances are you’ll end up looking a little scary. Always slowly build color, because you can always add more but taking things off is difficult. Especially when you’re almost done with your look.

5. Look close and far.
This is why I use a magnifying mirror and standard mirror. You really want to magnify your eyes so you can really get that true blend. You also want to take a look and see how your face looks from a decent conversation distance, which is why I use the standard mirror.

6. Blend blend blend, until your arm is dead (another reason beauty blenders are amaze balls.)
I can not stress enough how important blending is, for face and eyes. Even when you think your blend is good enough, blend more. You want the colors to flow and you don’t want any harsh lines.

7. Brushes give a better blend than sponges.
This applies mainly to eyes. When you use brushes rather than the sponge tip applicator, the hairs of the brush really grab the shadows and helps blend them. When using sponges, it’s almost just like you’re smearing rather than blending. There’s a difference. My personal favorite brushes are Morphe Brushes. They’re high quality and super affordable.

8. Clean brushes = clean application.
This seems obvious, but some people forget. It’s important to deep clean your brushes weekly, depending how much you use them. Not only does deep cleaning get rid of bacterias, but it also gets rid of any color residue left over from previous applications. I’ll be doing a ‘how I clean my brushes’ post soon!

9. Foundation THEN concealer
People have been battling this back and forth forever. Just think about it, if you want to cover a specific area and you put concealer on it, then you blend your foundation over it, it pretty much blends away the concealer. You put your foundation on first, then pack the concealer where you want it. Then, set your face with a powder.

10. For a dramatic cat-eye use tape!
I love this trick, if you really want a dramatic cat-eye use scotch tape on the corners of your eye. I usually follow the curve of my lower lash line, to the end of my eyebrow. Apply your primer, shadow, and liner as normal, then slowly peel the tape. You’ll have a beautiful crisp cat eye with little to no fallout!

Remember, practice makes perfect! So practice, practice, practice!

Keep your eyes peeled for a flawless face tutorial I’ll be doing soon!

I hope these tips helped you out for better makeup application, like always if you have any tips let me know in the comments! I’d love to hear from you.

xxx The Modern Lady.

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