For the longest time women have compared themselves to other women. Whether it’s wishing you had someone else’s body, lasagna recipe, tolerance for alcohol, or even wanting someone else’s boyfriend. We’re all guilty of it. We see other women as other competitors, not as team members we’re competing with. Perfect example: Your best friend sees your ex out with another girl, obviously she tells you about this. What’s one of the first things you ask? There’s a good chance it’s something along the lines of “Am I prettier than her?” Why does any of this matter to us? Because we’re women. We can’t deny the fact that we get jealous, sometimes a little too jealous. (You know what I mean, crazy Lady) Jealousy often times leads to hate.
The good thing is you have me, The Modern Lady, to help you with this. Since we now can recognize that most of our competition feeling comes from jealousy, how do we deal with it? For one, stop comparing yourself. We were all born to be different. Life would be so boring if we were all the same. Realize that everyone is beautiful. Every hair color, eye color, height, weight, sausage or pepperoni, domestic or craft, sativa or indica… wait I think I’m getting off track. The point is, life is full of varieties! Humans are one of the most fun varieties. Second, when you’re getting that “jealous feeling” STOP IT. As soon as you feel like word vomit is going to come up, take a deep breath. A Modern Lady doesn’t allow jealousy to take control of her tongue. Remember, small minded people discuss other people. A Modern Lady is not small minded.
Why do you think mens lives are so easy? They don’t waste time hating each other, and if they do hate someone it’s for a damn good reason. Not for the petty reasons women hate each other. If two men find out they had sex with the same girl, they high five and it’s cool. If two girls have sex with the same guy, they’re fighting. Men raise their peers up, a man will more often than not help another man out whether he knows him or not. It seems like women are only superficially nice when they’re drunk in the bathroom. Start empowering each other ladies, start complimenting each other and meaning it, we’re on the same team!
Next time you catch yourself comparing yourself to someone else, stop yourself. Instead of wishing you had another woman’s wardrobe, think of three awesome pieces you have in your wardrobe. If you find yourself about to start hating on another woman, first get over yourself, then remember who you are. You’re a Lady. She’s a Lady. We’re in this together.
The Modern Lady’s New Rule Number One: Other women are not your competition, quit acting like they are.
xxx The Modern Lady.